Navigating life after separation can be challenging, especially when it comes to co-parenting. Recently, I came across a court-issued list of parental conduct standards, and it occurred to me it is an excellent guide to help parents collaborate for the well-being of their children. These standards are a reminder that, even in separate households, parents can work together to create a stable and supportive environment.

Prepare Children for Transitions: Help your children prepare for moving between homes, both physically and emotionally. A smooth transition supports their relationships with both parents and minimizes disruption to their routines.
Manage Health & Hygiene: Ensure your children maintain proper hygiene routines and encourage good habits to keep them healthy. Make sure your children have access to prescribed medications and administer them exactly as directed by the doctor.
Set Household Rules: Discuss and agree on reasonable guidelines for homework, chores, discipline, and screen time – in both homes. While each parent may set rules applicable solely to their home, consistent rules across both homes will help children adapt more easily.
Prioritize School & Homework: Both parents should be involved in supervising homework. The custodial parent is responsible for ensuring the child arrives at school on time and for obtaining excuse notes when needed. Each parent should keep the other informed of any absences or tardiness.
Attend Activities & School Events: Help your child attend their scheduled activities, ensuring that events are manageable in number and location. Both parents should have the opportunity to attend school functions and extracurricular activities, even when it's not their designated time with the child.
Attend Family & Special Events: Each parent should notify the other when a family event is planned. It is important to remain flexible so your child can participate in family events on both sides.
Foster Communication: Communicate respectfully and directly with the other parent—never through your child. Avoid asking your child about the other parent or discussing adult issues, such as finances, in front of them. If your child shares something concerning, clarify it directly with the other parent. Respond to emails or texts regarding your child within 24 hours.

Not only are parental conduct standards considered best practices, but failure to follow them can impact a custody decision in court. That’s why it’s important to periodically review these standards.

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