Co-parenting after divorce is supposed to be a collaborative effort. However, it doesn’t always end up that way, particularly when one parent is uncooperative. At best, it can be annoying. In the worst-case scenario, it can be a violation of your divorce and custody agreement. Knowing how to navigate communication can help.

A recent article in Our Family Wizard shared three ways to deal with an uncooperative co-parent:

Keep things in perspective. Some behaviors are more severe than others. You may want to take action if your ex is refusing to reimburse you for expenses or modifying your parenting schedule without your consent. However, if your ex is being passive aggressive but still within the boundaries of your divorce agreement, you may need to let it go, focusing your time and energy elsewhere.
Don’t let the uncooperative parent set the tone for your relationship. Conflict involves two parties. If you don’t allow your ex’s petty behaviors to “push your buttons,” you can steer things toward a more positive note. Refuse to engage.
Consider alternatives to co-parenting. One method is called “parallel parenting,” which has built-in boundaries for high-conflict relationships. In parallel parenting, interactions are kept to a minimum on a single, isolated platform. There are no texts, emails, or phone calls.

Additionally, a group of psychologists shared this advice:

Accept what you cannot change. You can only change your reaction to your ex, so focus on what is in your control. While your ex may not try to see your perspective, try to understand his/hers.

Set healthy boundaries with your children. Help your kids to feel safe by giving them consistent boundaries. Don’t try to be the “fun parent.” Set rules, be predictable, and follow through.

Address issues ahead of time. Consider co-parenting therapy to work through anticipated conflicts and other problems.

Create a parenting plan. This will help guide you on issues of a child’s educational, emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being.

Don’t criticize your ex in front of your children. That burdens your kids with adult issues that could affect their emotional well-being.

Communication is key. Speak to the other parent as you to co-workers. Keep it respectful and transactional.

Custody can be complicated enough without flawed communication and an uncooperative co-parent. If you need the help of a top custody lawyer in Pennsylvania, contact us. Call 215-340-2207 or email us at info@bucksfamilylawyers.com.